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It’s not about the mashed potatoes or anything else on this list – it’s about listening to your voice.

It’s not about the mashed potatoes, pie, rolls, or whatever you enjoy eating.

It’s not about emotional eating.

It’s not about stress.

It’s not about feeling too full.

It’s not about being hungry.

It’s not about exercising away the calories.

It’s not about being wrong.

It’s not about being unworthy.

It’s not about your childhood.

It’s not about your poor choices.

It’s not about your lack of control.

It’s not about willpower.

It’s not about finding the reason why.

It’s not about wishing and hoping.

It’s not about waiting to be rescued.

It’s not about rewriting history.

It’s not about your successes.

It’s not about your failures.

It’s not about any of these things.

What it’s about is stepping consciously and fully into your life and taking the risk to be different.

This is why many people don’t choose this path and do the same thing repeatedly because it’s safe.

The big question is, does staying the same cost you what you want?

What else is there that matters?

Life is too short to sacrifice your happiness and strive for goals that aren’t what you want or need. 

Living in alignment with what you need is the path to fulfillment.

You can make your life your own by getting inspiration from others and creating something new that fits your life. Follow your path and do what works for you.

It’s important to be good with yourself since you live with yourself in your head 24/7.

  • What’s it like in there?
  • Is it a place you would welcome others to come in for a visit?
  • Do you want more for yourself?

You are listening to your voice.

Focusing on the latest fad diet workout, meditation trend, or the latest stress quick fix can make stress build rather than help to reduce stress. This can take you further away from what you want your life to be. In those times when you find yourself stress eating and unconsciously reaching for another handful of chips, it’s confirmation that stress is in control.

Sensible advice is often lost when you’re desperate for change. And unable to patiently pay closer attention to what you need for more self-awareness.

If you allowed yourself to set your intentions and live more mindfully, would you be further along than if you chased the latest fad?

Listening to your voice takes courage and grit.

Others in your life might not like it.

It might mean they must adjust and get used to a more vocal, honest you. Many people will outright disagree that you’re doing what’s right. Others will see you change and try convincing you to follow their advice instead of cultivating your voice.

You need to stay the course.

You’re good if your path is healthy, self-compassioned and aligned with your intentions.

Are there dreams you want to become reality, but you’re scared?

Think about how you feel after you’ve earned something rather than receiving it as a gift. Usually, people say that their sense of self changes. Every time you learn something new, you add to your self-knowledge. This is a precious gift.

Therefore, when you take a risk you might find that:

  • Challenges make you stronger.
  • You start believing that you can trust yourself.
  • Listening to your mind, body and heart gives you the necessary information.

Sometimes, you need good information, but most of the time, you only need to know yourself—an intimate knowledge of how you work free from assumptions, judgments, and someone else’s rules. So, instead, be curious, experiment, and then observe what happens. Do more of what works. That’s the bottom line.

What if you have the resources to know what you need right at your fingertips?

What will it take for you to listen to yourself and get started?

Get started.

Start making the changes you want to see happen in your life today. It’s all you’ve got in the end.

Do what you must to be healthier, happier and more connected to what you most want today.

It’s not really about the food or what you weigh, how you look, how many lines are on your face, or how much cellulite you have or don’t. How much is in your bank account or how much staff do you have working for you? These aren’t markers of your value as a human being.

The stuff above doesn’t elevate your value and valuing them keeps you locked in a battle you will never win. And yet, often, some people have more than you, and comparing yourself to them, even when you try not to, is difficult.

Step into the fullness of your life.

In the end, your life is not about the mashed potatoes.